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I Hope You Feel Uncomfortable 

My best friends (chosen family) do something very interesting each new year. They sit down together, take stock in their lives, and work to create good habits for that year. One of their habits (I really hate the word resolution) is to make a point to do something outside their comfort zone. Their thought pattern has rattled around my head since early January.

Just the other day I announced to my friend that I am boring. Of course her response was “you are anything but boring.” Ok so I may not be boring to the people closest to me, but I feel  boring. Not the I’m going to run out and get a sports car boring, or I’m going to climb Kili boring. It’s not about shock factor or the you-did-what factor at all. It’s about challenging myself and making myself feel a bit uncomfortable.

Recently my family traveled to Washington, DC. We were having dinner in a great little spot that had a piano bar upstairs. While we ate we were serenaded by people singing karaoke in the piano bar. There were some incrediby talented people singing who must sing all the time, as well as a few who obviously do not need to quit their day jobs. I sat there joking throughout our dinner that I was going to try my voice at karaoke. My 12 year old and I began to mull over choices for my debut. Should I attempt Beyoncé, or stay with something less booty shaking? Perhaps Elton John would be more my speed, or something classic like Gladys Knight. Knowing full-well that it was just a hypothetical scenario we began to narrow down my choices. Tiny Dancer it was – seeing as how I frequently belt it out in the car! We both had a great laugh at the mere thought of me singing our beloved Sir Elton John! 

“Next up, Sally!” I looked around very amused for the other person named Sally when my husband said, “You have been talking about stepping outside of your comfort zone and I thought you needed a little push.” Yeah, off a cliff!!! I was paralyzed. My daughter’s jaw was hanging wide open as I made my way to the microphone. What did I have to lose? Maybe a little dignity. I would never see another soul in this place again! 

Note the guy in the back snickering! That’s his she’s-going-home-with-YOU grin.

I’d like to say it was a drop the mic moment. It was awful. I did it though! I sang every lyric proudly. There were some claps and cheers, and NOT from my family.  I. Did. It. Thanks to my husband I was exhilarated, and I showed my daughter (and myself) that it is absolutely OK to do something completely out of your comfort zone despite how embarrassing it might be. I did not feel at all boring that night.

Recently I stumbled onto the blog of a former co-worker and discovered that she and her husband had given up the comforts of “home” and purchased an RV. A couple of years ago they took it all over the United States and experienced some amazing things. Of course it wasn’t all glamorous and it was daily life…in an RV…with pets. The key here is that even though it is daily life there is some level of uncertainty. Low and behold they are heading back out for a new journey in 2016. I will be keeping up with their adventures and daily living. 

Some message is being sent to me – I’m convinced of it. I happen upon the blog of someone I haven’t even thought about in years, and then I’m hit with the movie trailer for  Whiskey Tango Foxtrot over and over again. The BFF and I had added that to our list of movies to see even before I began feeling this tug. I’m not talking about running off to  Kabul like Tina Fey’s character, but I feel like I need to be experiencing something more. My personality is one where I need to have security, and know where I am going to lay my head at night. I am a planner, but I should be a little uncomfortable – Tiny Dancer uncomfortable. 

I read an interesting article on Cosmopolitan about Shonda Rhimes. If you’ve been living under a rock – Shonda Rhimes is the amazingly talented creator behind Grey’s Anatomy, Private Practice, Scandal, and How to Get Away With Murder. In this article she suggests doing what scares you and celebrating daily. All of this is part of her new book, Year of Yes. Her words in this article are exactly what I am talking about, and what my friends set out to accomplish at the beginning of 2016! 

I’m going to try. I can’t promise I’m going to succeed, but I am going to look for opportunities to step out of my comfort zone, do what scares me, and celebrate. My attempts may not equal setting off on the great American RV adventure, or traveling to war-torn countries. Singing my favorite songs in front of complete strangers may be more my type of uncomfortable. Whatever your speed, or your type – I hope YOU feel uncomfortable too. 

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Working From Home – Wednesday Reflection

I’ve realized something about working from home…I miss people. It was so awesome during the time I was at home FULL-TIME! It’s like I’ve had this epiphany – I need people…I am a people person.
Don’t get me wrong though – I enjoy being able to work from home. I have to admit I get more done that way with no interruption. All of my 3-day staff friends who have taken to working away from their home office totally understand where I am coming from as well. It’s like you go into a bubble, and emerge realizing there is life outside of walkers, donation issues, server problems. I love working with Davidson Day School…they are awesome in their own right. It’s great to get out of my workout clothes, and get going super early.

What a great network of people I have! Just some Wednesday reflections as I work on a projects from my home office.

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With A Heavy Heart

There is a new posting on my little friend Harrison’s page. As Gina (his mom) states…she is writing an update that she hoped would never come. When I received an email that told me I needed to check Harrison’s site I got a horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach, and simply did want to see what was waiting.
All I want to do today is hold my daughters and never let go. Harrison’s family needs a miracle – there has got to be one just waiting on them!

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What Really Matters…

A dear friend shared this with me (Thanks, Jan). I felt compelled to share it with everyone.

How will the Value of Your Days Be Measured?

Ready or nor, some day it will come to an end. There will be no more surprises; no minutes; no hours, or days.
All the things you collected, whether treasure or forgotten, will pass on to someone else.
It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed.
Your grudges, resentments,frustrations, and jealousies will finally disappear.
So, too, your hopes, ambitions, plans and to-do lists will expire (alleluia!)
The wins and losses, that once seemed so important, will fade away.
It won’t matter where you came from or what side of the tracks you lived, at the end.
It won’t matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant.
Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant.


So, in the end, what will really matter?What will matter is not what your bought, but what you built; not what you got but what you gave.
What will matter is not your success, but your significance.
What will matter is not what you learned, but what compassion, courage or sacrifice that enriched, empowered, or encouraged others to emulate your example.
What will matter is not your competence, but your character.
What will matter is not how many people you knew, but how many people will feel a lasting loss when you’re gone.
What will matter is how long you will be remembered, by whom, and for what.
Living a life that matters doesn’t happen by accident.
It’s not a matter of circumstance but of choice.
Choose to live a life that matters.

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Christmas 2007

I love Christmas! I love the feeling it brings, and the fun we have as a family. This year was no exception…we had a ball. I really wish people had Christmas in their hearts everyday.

My brother, Tripp, has been around for a couple of weeks. It has been an utter joy for me, and my children have been thrilled. He spoiled them rotten – he loves them so much. Mark’s mom was in town for the holiday as well. She is awesome at playing games with the kids, and keeps them entertained. What would Christmas be without my Mom and Dad? I cherish the time with them…I totally appreciate my mother more and more. Doing all that comes with the celebration is NOT an easy task.

We always go to church for Christmas Eve service, and come home for a nice meal together. The past several years our dear friend “Miss Betty” has been with us. We were sad that she missed this year due to a recent surgery…she just wasn’t up to it.

Christmas Day was AWESOME! Sarah was hysterical…she has completely gotten into everything Christmas from Baby Jesus to Santa, as well as the fun of giving (She had NO problem with receiving either!). Mary Beth always has fun at Christmas. She has always been odd in the sense she want everyone else to open their gifts before her. She was like this as a little girl. I have to say 2007 was one of the best!

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The Elves Are Working

It’s been very difficult for me to get into the decorating spirit. Note to self…do not have surgery a few weeks before Christmas. Normally it takes me a day to get the decorations going, and the house into the Christmas transformation. It has taken me days this year! I’ve had some great help from some very special elves.

I have also said what the heck, and have let the girls hang the ornaments where they may. It is really their tree this year. Truthfully, I don’t even care. I am the one who would typically rearrange the ornaments to suit my taste. I actually love the placement this year. So what the angels are in a cluster, or the long-legged snowman is hanging to the floor. I am merely sitting back enjoying the excitement through Sarah’s eyes, as well as the music provided by Mimi (I would kill for that talent).
We still have some loose ends to tie up here and there, but Christmas is alive in the Nix household. Fa-la-la-la-la…la-la-la-LA!

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You Can Always Smell The Turkey Cooking

I love the holiday season. Thanksgiving has always been a favorite of mine. I enjoy the time with family, and it just feels good! There is nothing like stuffing ourselves until we can’t see straight! Not a year goes by that I do not think about Thanksgivings of past.
I always remember my Grandmother we called “Mom” hanging a spoon from her nose. She made it seem so simple. We all sat and laughed until we couldn’t laugh anymore. There was this 80 year old woman sitting there with Mama’s best silver swinging from her face. HOW she did that will always baffle me.
I cannot eat candied sweet potatoes without thinking of my Nanny. She LOVED them! Each Thanksgiving it was the first thing she went to upon entering the house. She didn’t say hello – she just went straight over to check the status of the marshmallows. There was always a second helping for her.
We’ve been going to Atlanta to Aunt Suanne’s for the past several years. It is a wonderful way to spend a long holiday weekend visiting with people you do not see throughout the year. We always have a Friday outing – this year we took all the kids to Stone Mountain Park. You can see Sarah and her cousin Michael in the picture on the coldest day of the year!
There are certain things we all love about the various holidays we spend together. I can’t stand being without my mother’s dressing, I completely love the Macy’s Parade, and I will always sample a bit of the turkey right off the bird before it hits the table. It drives me crazy smelling it cook for hours!

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