Designer handbags – shoes – sunglasses, big/expensive cars, large plasma tv’s. We see them all the time! What message are we sending to one another, and our children? I saw a 13 year old girl with a designer purse that I do not even have! I remember well wanting a particular sweater from a store that I will not name. I just feel like it has gotten out of control even more. You can blame society, media, celebrities…the truth is that is all begins at home. How much value do we really place on money?
Things are really tight for most people now – have you seen the prices in the grocery stores? Gas prices continue to sky-rocket! The average, hard-working person is tightening their belt. I overheard a story where a young girl mentioned something she was going to do over spring break. One of her males classmates responded with, “You are doing that? I thought you were poor!”
My daughter learned about such attitudes early on unfortunately. I raised her by myself for a many years. We lived in this great apartment in the historic district of our town. We loved the place! A friend came over to play and taunted MB over living in an apartment while she lived in a great BIG house. Mary Beth’s response was beautiful (in first grade mind you), “It doesn’t matter what size house you live in as long as there is love.”
What does it say about people when we equate happiness or worthiness with wealth? There are two quotes that I found…”The money you have can give you freedom, but the money you pursue enslaves you.”(Rousseau) as well as an Hasidic saying, “One who thinks money can do everything is likely to do anything to get it.”
We all need money. We all have desires to do things we need and want to do. It is great to be able to take your children out shopping for cute clothes each season, and to provide them with great opportunities. It is also wonderful to be able to do the things we as adults want to do. Money can have a powerful narcotic effect on our values…ask yourself this question – What would I do if I suddenly had a dispensable income (and be honest)?